Overcoming Grief

Grieving is a very emotional experience no matter what age you are. The process does not have to only be a person passing. You can grieve on a relationship, personal property, a job, a business, pets, or for someone else, etc. The heaviness you feel can take time.

No one can tell you how to grieve. However, people can give encouragement and help in other ways. It’s picking yourself up daily after allowing yourself time. Some issues can take a week to one month or more. Variation is different depending on the length you were involved with your situation or person for some it may be a little longer than one month.

The steps to overcoming grief are not always what someone else tells you but what you are telling yourself. When you get up in the morning, afternoon, or evening what do you say to yourself in the mirror and throughout the day?

Anything you invest your time in when taken away can bring sadness, brokenness, and hurt.

It’s after you are ready to get back up you find hope. You get to a place where you cried your last tears. You know the pain is still there but it hurts a little at the moment. It is said there are five stages of grief:

1. Denial, numbness, and shock

2. Bargaining

3. Depression

4. Anger

5. Acceptance

We all handle them differently there is no one way to grieve the loss you feel or experience. Yet, it’s the last stage of Acceptance. This is where you come to terms with the situation. This does not mean you are completely over something. But your headspace is a little lighter such as the clouds of “If I could have…”. For example, maybe it’s in that moment from a relationship you realize your self-worth and respect is bigger than that person. As you reflect, you start to see the benefits of moving forward in life. Perhaps you lost your home, car, business, or job they all affect your livelihood or priceless items you had.

There are many struggles along the way in hoping for better. But when you get a new job, revamp the business, new car, or move into a new home the beauty is in the blessings once you see it. The past does not compare to the overflow you are receiving. Your smile comes back, your laughter, you can breathe, you start to lift your head more, your peace is there, etc. You realize it was the grace of God who held your hand even when felt like you were by yourself. God sent encouragement, help in different forms, put a song of praise in your heart (you’re like where did this song come from? lol), your mindset started to shift (sometimes you don’t remember when it happened), messages through his word lifting your countenance, and your relationship with God became better.

Overcoming Grief helps you see there is hope at the end of the tunnel no matter the situation you are facing. When you are in the fog nothing is making sense. When you come out of the fog your outlook has changed, you take ownership-accountability for your part and you no longer hold your feet or allow someone else to hold your feet, or mindset to the fire. Sometimes it’s realizing you tried and your story is what encourages others in their storm.

Written by: Author Evelyn E. Garland

July2023

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